Thursday, March 2, 2017

Broken.

bro·ken
/ˈbrōkən/
adjective
  1. 1.
    having been fractured or damaged and no longer in one piece or in working order.

Alexander, M. (1993).  Fault lines: A memoir (2nd ed.) [Kindle Fire version]. New York: The Feminist Press of the City University of New York.

I can't imagine living my life thinking of myself as "other."  Meena Alexander addresses the events/after effects of September 11th in her memoir and how she is seen as an "other" American (Chapter 21).  As I stated in my previous post, she already views herself broken from all of her life experiences as a child--moving back and forth from India, Sudan and England among other things.  

After reading Alexander's memoir, I've learned that you must gain your self-identity separate from your surroundings.  Even though our upbringing and sense of self are almost fully determined from our geographic location throughout life, we must think more independently and logically about things.  This makes me question a great deal of things.  One question I've had for a while now is that what if I was born in an entirely different part of the globe?  Wouldn't I be raised to believe differently?  I would hope that no matter where I am, that I would come to the conclusion to use empathy and an open mind to determine my actions, thoughts and feelings.

As stated in Chapter 12, Americans participate in a sort of confessional lifestyle where you have to give reason or "explain yourself, constantly."  In regards to labeling and the constant struggle of identity and self-creation, Alexander says it best.  

"...I am a poet writing in America.  But American poet?  What sort? ...An Asian-American poet then? ...Everything that comes to me is hyphenated.  A woman poet, a women poet of color, a South Indian woman poet who makes up lines in English, a postcolonial language, as she waits for the red lights to change on Broadway."

Her writing is so powerful to me.  She unearths feelings that you don't necessarily want to surface.  I never thought of identity that way (I know that sounds silly and perhaps immature/underdeveloped).  But, I never thought of people thinking of themselves as hyphenated labels.  When it comes to race and nationality, it can be a hard issue to address and challenge.  It's up to us to educate ourselves and create an environment welcoming of all people.  Who knows if we'll ever live in a world with no labels or hyphens, but it's how we carry ourselves and maintain empathy and understanding in our hearts.  I want to end my 4-part blog series with a poem from one of Alexander's mentors/influencers, Adrienne Rich, called "Stepping Backward"...


"...So I come back to saying this good-by,
A sort of ceremony of my own,
This stepping backward for another glance.
Perhaps you'll say we need no ceremony,
Because we know each other, crack and flaw,
Like two irregular stones that fit together.
Yet still good-by, because we live by inches
And only sometimes see the full dimension.
Your stature's one I want to memorize--
Your whole level of being, to impose
On any other comers, man or woman.
I'd ask them that they carry what they are
With your particular bearing, as you wear
The flaws that make you both yourself and human."



                     Empathy
by dinabelenko

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Tear.

tear
/ter/
verb
  1. 1.
    pull or rip (something) apart or to pieces with force.

Alexander, M. (1993).  Fault lines: A memoir (2nd ed.) [Kindle Fire version]. New York: The Feminist Press of the City University of New York.

I'll start off by saying how much respect I've gained for Meena Alexander.  She has gone through so much, and still has grace.  Her writing is fluid and ever changing, hence this is her second edition of her memoir.  She mentions that in order to "close this book" she had to go back home to India and return to her house of childhood.

I do believe that she realizes her own strength to keep moving forward in life but never truly forgetting our past.  You can't go back in time.  Once something is done, it's finite.  But, in writing you can go back and revise.  Making revisions can be a very therapeutic process.  I see this as possibly a reason for her going back to finish her memoir.  "Memory knits us together then tears us apart" (Chapter 15).

In the beginning of her memoir, Alexander mentions she is a "woman cracked by multiple migrations" (Chapter 1).  She is the definition of a diverse woman.  I say woman because I think gender plays a key role in this book.  Taking into account her upbringing and uprooting, she has become a very strong woman.  She's fought against standards set by her religious family and the standards set by our entire world or society.  If I had the same path as her, I would also struggle with my identity and place in this world.  I come from an entirely different background, and I struggled with my identity as well.  I still struggle.  It takes a great deal of gumption to dig deep and open up about struggle.

A question to think about for my final post...
In a world full of labels, how does one move past their "assigned" label and live a life full of love and not hate?


                    a choice that is tearing me apart
by LostOneself


Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Split.

split
/split/
verb
  1. 1.
    break or cause to break forcibly into parts, especially into halves or along the grain.

Alexander, M. (1993).  Fault lines: A memoir (2nd ed.) [Kindle Fire version]. New York: The Feminist Press of the City University of New York.

Wow.  After reading more and discovering more, Alexander's story breaks my heart.  No child should ever have to experience what she did.  To have someone you love and trust so much sexually abuse you, is in so many ways wrong.  Her grandfather hurt her so greatly that she had no choice but to bury it deep in her mind.  She couldn't even tell her father before he died.  Alexander talks about how she didn't realize what really happened until later in life.  And she wonders how didn't realize when things like the below were written in her childhood notebook.

"...from Shakespeare's play: 'Sorrow concealed, like to an oven stopp'd, /Doth burn the heart to cinders where it is'" (Chapter 16).


Using her beautiful skill of writing she elaborates more...

"I taught myself to accept that there is knowledge that is too much for the nervous system to bear, that disappears underground, but sparks up through fault lines" (Chapter 16).  In this quote, we learn the meaning for the title of her memoir.  She not only feels torn apart due to her migrating childhood, but also because of her familial relationships.  I can't imagine what it would be like to have grown up in a family where the mother / the woman is supposed to lead a set life of serving her husband.  

Like her, I did grow up in a Christian household but not as strict.  Also like her, I grew up with privilege...maybe a different kind of privilege and more so, but nevertheless we have some commonalities.  I think it's once we realize our own privilege and strength, then we can have an open heart and mind.  I try to put myself her in her shoes, but it's very difficult.  What I can do is have an understanding of her story and use what I've learned to accept who I am as a woman and accept other perspectives that aren't my own. 

Considering her traumatic incident with her grandfather, it's no wonder she struggled with her identity as a woman.  And still does.  I do wonder if she'll come to some sort of peace within herself later on in the memoir...


Image source
https://davemcdowell.wordpress.com/2014/07/18/a-world-split-apart/

Monday, February 27, 2017

Cracked.

cracked
/krakt/
adjective
  1. 1.
    damaged and showing lines on the surface from having split without coming apart.

Alexander, M. (1993).  Fault lines: A memoir (2nd ed.) [Kindle Fire version]. New York: The Feminist Press of the City University of New York.

The figurative language used in Meena Alexander's memoir is beautifully painted across the pages.  "I sit here writing, for I know that time does not come fluid and whole into my trembling hands. All that is here comes piecemeal, though sometimes the joints have fallen into place miraculously, as if the heavens had opened and mango trees fruited in the rough asphalt of upper Broadway" (Chapter 1).  I'm instantly drawn to her words through her storytelling and imagery.  The first thing I notice is Alexander's use of the word "her" when she is referencing herself--the past version of herself.  The "cracked" or broken version.  She was born in India, but has lived quite the journey and now resides in New York City.  
It's interesting how she tells her story by intertwining her past and present.  To me it makes logical sense to write as one would speak, while swinging from one's past then propelling into the present.  I believe this style adds depth to Alexander's story.  She begins to illustrate a life full of many lives if that makes sense.  "Sometimes I am torn apart by two sorts of memories, two opposing ways of being towards the past...a life embedded in a life, and that in another life, another, and another" (Chapter 3).

Growing up in a Christian military family, she didn't want for much while in India.  As in, she seems to have been quite privileged.  Life revolves around the men in the family.  They are the head of the household and it's believed that a woman serves her husband with her place being at home.  I wonder how she will navigate through life when she crosses into another country.  A burning question I have, as I continue to read...

What will she face as she moves from country to country?  How will the men in her life shape her past and present?
I'm truly enjoying this cross-cultural story of a woman displaying such poetic grace and turmoil. 
 

by gelumbe